Book Review: We’re Not Okay by Leah Grey
“Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is–his good, pleasing and perfect will.” –Romans 12:2 (NIV)
Let me say this first – Leah was kind enough to give me a free copy of her book in exchange for my honest review. Phew! Now that that’s out of the way … on to the review:
We’re Not Okay is a powerhouse read – short but potent. Throughout the book, there are spots that encourage us to pause for introspection. I had a couple of ‘Uh-oh, I’m-doing that moments.’
The book is divided into 10 chapters and also has an introduction and a conclusion. Leah begins by telling us a little bit of her story.
As we read, we are given some insight into why Leah wrote We’re Not Okay – once a rebellious teenager who feel in love with an addict, she is deeply passionate about the effect that various types of addiction can have on the family.
I was immediately drawn into her testimony because, hey I could relate to a lot of what she said. Like Leah, I’m a member of Generation Y and can remember a time before smartphones and high-tech became commonplace.
I can remember a time when personal time did not mean ignoring everyone in the room to spend time in cyberspace.
We’re Not Okay reminds us that while God is the ultimate parent, parenting is a big deal as our children – regardless of the circumstances they were born in – are a gift from God.
Each chapter is divided into bite-sized nuggets and begins with a Bible verse related to the topic. We’re Not Okay is not a ‘read it and forget it’ book.
Throughout each section, there are Bible verses and biblical principles that draw us back to God’s word as the source of wisdom.
Each chapter ends with three questions that encourage us to dig deep into our parenting arsenal. We get to ask ourselves specific questions that can lead to more effective parenting.
Some of the lessons that Leah shared were:
- Beware of the behavior that we’re modeling for our children.
- Our brokenness and that of our children are for God’s glory.
- Yes, we will make mistakes and do those things that are not in accordance with the will of God, but Leah encourages us to give ourselves grace and to continue to seek the wisdom of God.
- We are reminded to pray and pray again for our children.
Also included is an evaluation of three types of parenting and how they could affect our relationship with our children.
I like the way Leah used the stories about parenting in the Bible and made them relatable to the modern-day family.
I was convicted several times while reading We’re Not Okay – through Leah’s words, I saw some of the things that I was doing and (not doing).
The biggest takeaway for me was the challenge that we need to trust God with our children. We need to actively believe that God can, and will, take care of our children but we have to first trust them into his care.
Overall, We’re Not Okay was a good read that has the potential to become an effective parenting tool if we take the time to actually answer the questions at the end of the sections and apply the principles to our families.
We’re Not Okay is available for purchase on Amazon. You may purchase your copy here:
Leah Grey moved to New York City full of hopeful aspirations until her husband went into long-term treatment for addiction. Unable to afford to stay, she picked up her childhood dreams and moved back to her rural, Canadian beach town with her two young children.
From rooftop city skyline views to her parent’s basement, in the darkest time of her life, she created Grey Ministries to support, encourage and empower women with loved ones who struggle with addiction.
With a practical faith-based approach, she challenges popular beliefs about addiction while teaching women in crisis how to find God’s peace within the storms of life. In March 2016, she launched her website, LeahGrey.com and online peer support community, “Live, Love, Hope”.
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