God’s Grace When You Feel Like A Failure

I know your secret. There are times when you feel like a failure. You don’t remember that you were saved by grace or that your Heavenly Father is the Great King. All you know is you messed up. You messed up bad. And it hurts.

God's Grace When You Feel Like A Failure
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What It Means to Fail

We are taught from an early age to pursue the world’s opinion of success. That means accomplishing the things and acquiring the marks of status that our society claims are necessary. Failure is different for each of us because it has a lot to do with our personal values and what we have been taught to value as important.

But there’s a common factor in all our failures–failing makes us feel unworthy of God’s grace.


My Personal Experience With Failure

I had gotten the Word. I was fired up and motivated. I was feeling rejuvenated and positive – ready to sit back and let Jehovah fight my battles. Then I walked into the office. In less than five minutes, I was snarling at my coworkers. Oh. My. Word.

The enemy always knows how to prick me where it hurts. My “Jesus-high” was gone.

  • I felt defeated.
  • Demotivated.
  • Soiled and dirty.
  • Too sinful to pray or to ask God for forgiveness.
  • Too messed up to meditate on His word.
  • Too unworthy to even copy and paste my usual devotion to send out for my team.

In less time than it took to fully access my computer system, I had shamed God and disappointed myself. How do I recover from my snarling insolence?

What message had I portrayed to those around me? Is this really who I am? If it is–can I get a make-over?

My imagination conjured up a man laughing at me and rubbing his hands in glee. He had accomplished what he had set out to do – the chasm between me and God widened in my mind until I felt like I was in complete and utter darkness.

I knew from previous experience that the longer the time between my sin and its confession, the more distant I would feel from God – the less I would feel like praying and the more unworthy I would feel to dig into His word.

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When You Feel Like A Failure, Remember God’s Grace

But what I love about God is that He doesn’t treat us as our sin deserves. He doesn’t treat us with the disdain and anger the enemy wishes He would.  When you feel like a failure, remember that regardless of what we have done, or who we have hurt, God is willing to give us grace. One of the best definitions I’ve heard for grace is that it is the undeserved kindness God bestows on mankind. But I also love what the Blue Letter Bible has to say about grace based on the typical usage if the Greek word cháris:

“of the merciful kindness by which God, exerting his holy influence upon souls, turns them to Christ, keeps, strengthens, increases them in Christian faith, knowledge, affection, and kindles them to the exercise of the Christian virtues”

Isn’t that a beautiful image? Not only is grace lavished on us but it exerts an influence on us which draws us to Christ through whom we can be saved.

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But the enemy doesn’t want us to receive God’s grace. He doesn’t want us to remember that God’s grace is always freely available so he’ll try to make us feel unworthy of God’s lovingkindness. And so, when you feel like a failure, you have to make note of what God’s grace means to you.


Lessons Learned About God’s Grace

Apologize to the person whom we’ve hurt. Yikes! Gather up your courage, wear it like a blanket if you have to, but just get on with it. You’ll feel so much better once you have. You’ll also feel less like you’re all alone in a dark pit and more as if you can once again approach the throne of grace.

Seek and accept God’s forgiveness. At that point you’ll realize a few things:

  • Our sin is not enough to separate us from the love of God. Romans 8:38-39
  • Once we confess to Jehovah, He will forgive us. I John 1:9
  • We don’t need to “clean ourselves up” to go to God, the Holy Spirit does that through the Word. John 17:17
  • Jesus understands the trials we go through, He was also tested while on earth. Hebrews 4:15
  • His life, death, and resurrection give us the power to come before the throne of grace. Hebrews 4:16

We can take comfort in the fact that when we fall–if we fall–we can confess our sins and receive forgiveness. Jesus our High Priest extends mercy, grace, and strength. And maybe, just maybe we’ll remember this verse the next time:

“Today you are on the verge of battle with your enemies. Do not let your heart faint, do not be afraid, and do not tremble or be terrified because of them; for the LORD your God is He who goes with you, to fight for you against your enemies, to save you.” Deuteronomy 20:3-4 (NKJV)

What was your “graceless” moment? How did you get the courage to confess it all to Jesus?

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